By Tyler Graeff
Romans 12:10 says, “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” How countercultural is the word of God in a society that encourages individualism? Being independent and self-reliant is encouraged through the promotion of individualism. People are apt to exploit and hurt others, no position or person is exempt. Many times, these things may be in the spotlight of the news, behind people’s backs or on social media. It’s becoming hard to trust; people are being hurt and people are falling into a pattern of looking out for themselves. This can prevent the pursuit of personal relationships.
What does it mean to be devoted to one another? Our relationships start to look personal rather than transactional. Individualism allows people to operate in the transactional mindset: what can I get from this person? Being devoted to one another helps us to ask the question: what can I do for this person? In a transactional leadership approach, those that we serve end up feeling used and devalued. When we serve others in a personal way, those we serve start to feel empowered and valued. Two opposite sides of the spectrum, right?
In our individualistic, highly transactional society, how do we begin to craft a culture which honors one another? In chapter 21 of “High Impact Teams”, Witt identifies two foundational building blocks that can be used to craft a culture of honor. The first block starts with you! In order to have a culture that is devoted to one another, we must know how accepted we are by Jesus. Insecurities can cause us to become selfish, worrying about ourselves or what others think. Once we have an understanding of our identities in Christ and we operate in that confidence, we can shift our focus outwards.
This outward focus brings us to the second block of viewing others through the eyes of God. A culture of one another is viewed from the lense of Christ. A culture of honor puts those that you serve and those you serve with, first. We are called to treat people with dignity, respect, value, and care. Often times when a leader’s focus is turned inward, it starts to affect those that they serve. We treat others with value so that there may be no divisions within the body of Christ. We are made in the likeness of God and He does not show partiality.
It’s not about us! In ministry, we need to remember the example that Jesus set as a servant leader. As leaders, we need community. Crafting a culture of honor takes work and is counter-cultural. Take the challenge and start to craft a culture of honor and devotion. When we craft a culture of one another, we begin to maximize unity and minimize division. Let’s show the world the standard of God by showing honor and devotion to one another and influence the status quo of a fallen world.
Name: Melanie Douglas
Hometown: Warner Robins, Ga
Teen Challenge Center: Columbus Women’s Home 2018
Brief Testimony: I came into Teen Challenge broken from abuse stemming from the early age of 9 years old. Walking into the doors of TC broken and suffering from rejection issues as well as abandonment issues, God met me here and has totally transformed my life. He continues to heal me daily and walk with me as I continue to serve Him.
What is the vision and calling that God has given you? I believe the vision for my life is to help win souls for the kingdom. I know and have faith that one day I will be a director of a Teen Challenge and continue to help women find freedom in Christ.
How has the ELP Program impacted you? ELP has and continues to teach me leadership skills as well as coping skills to walk this journey out as I come alongside my leaders to help win souls for the kingdom and bring Hope to the lost.
Name: Amanda Taylor
Hometown: Jackson County, GA
Teen Challenge Center: Columbus Women’s Home 2007
Brief Testimony: I started using drugs at the age of 13, and began using meth at the age of 15. Five years later, I still did not know I had a problem, although I was using daily. When I was introduced to crack cocaine, it did not take me long to realize that I was in real trouble. After a few more years of trying to stop and going deeper in the lifestyle, I walked through the doors of the Columbus Women’s Home and immediately, I encountered Hope. I am so thankful today that God called me into this ministry, and I am honored that he would use me to share that same hope with others.
What do you enjoy most about your role? I find myself saying, “This is one of my favorite things I get to do” to most of the responsibilities I have, but ELP has always been deeply embedded in my heart. I truly enjoy the opportunity to pour into up and coming leaders in the weekly sessions and one-on-one.
Why do you feel that leadership and training are valuable? I believe that without the experience of leadership, we would not face the pressures of standing for what is right before we step outside the role of a student. Without training, we would not grow beyond where we are at today.
By Tyler Graeff and Bryan Sampson
While reading through the gospels I can’t help but notice how intentional Jesus was with connecting with people. Time and time again in the word, we see Jesus interacting with one person in front of him, i.e. the demoniac, the woman at the well, the lame man, and countless more. Jesus was intentional and personable with the person in front of Him. I am challenged in my own walk to be the same. How often I have been guilty of being on my phone or checking emails when out to dinner with friends or in the presence of good company or even being inquired upon by an intern or student. Today it is all too common to be in an important conversation or meeting and being challenged to remain fully present and engaged with those in the room.
Witt (2018) emphasizes the need to embrace the skill of in-person (incarnational) conversation. This is what God did by becoming incarnate in Jesus Christ. We must be present with those we are in conversation with face-to-face. Focus on the person in the room, give them your full attention. And if you must take a text message or incoming call, apologize and ask permission to do so.
Texting and emails are a great blessing for communication; however, many times we can misread the delivery one uses to communicate. Many times I have read an email and thought that a person was being harsh with me, when the complete opposite was being communicated by the sender. When conflict needs resolving, it is best to do this in person (incarnational) rather than through technology.
Technology can be a blessing when it is used to glorify God, we just don’t want it to cause us to become so impersonal that people do not feel the love and connection from us and the God who lives within us. Let’s challenge ourselves to become more like Christ, so people experience the incarnational love of Christ through us. Jesus sets the example of what it looks like when another person is in our company. Are we giving that person the attention they need? Are we being intentional to create space and distance from technology, considering all of the ministering and training opportunities presented to us?
Let us pray today that God will give us the discernment and the power to use technology and build personal relationships in a way that brings him the most glory.
Name: Tony Henderson
Brief testimony: I was raised in a Christian home but rebelled against the word of God by falling into a life of sex and partying, but one day I became tired and asked God to CHANGE ME. It was at that point He picked me up and since that point, God has transformed my whole life and has awoken the city in my soul. I live now to do his will not my will.
What is the vision and calling that God has given you? To minister to the lost and help bring restoration to families.
How has the ELP Program impacted you? It has shed light on some issues to help change mindsets and mentalities.
Name: Vicky Syfrett
Hometown: I am a Mississippi girl but have lived in North West Florida for the past 26 years.
Teen Challenge Center: June 1st this year, I will have been at West Florida Teen Challenge in Bonifay for 20 years.
Brief Testimony: I was raised in a Christian home but rebelled as a teen. Life spiraled downward until the only place I had to look was up. After the death of a dear friend, and myself not expecting to live to see the age of 30, I realized God was my only hope. At age 29, on March 1, 1986, I allowed the Lord to take control of my heart. Not just my heart but my eyes, ears, mouth, feet and hands. To go where HE said go and do whatever HE said to do. From that day my life has been one amazing journey. And I thank God, that He saw fit to allow me to minister at Teen Challenge and that HE isn’t finished with me yet!
What do you enjoy most about your role? As many in TC ministry, I have several roles. I enjoy working one on one with Middle school boys as a Facilitator and Dean of Students in our Learning Center. I assumed the role of Training Facilitator several years ago while keeping up with student and staff PSNC’s, GSNC’s and CEU’s. I love photography, Crafts, Bible Journaling, reading and working with and encouraging all to pursue continued training.
Why do you feel that leadership and training are valuable? There is nothing worse than being given a task to do and not knowing why or how to accomplish it. Training is so important, not only to the staff but also for the student being ministered to. True Leadership is important. Those following can see that you are responsible for people and things under your care. Work unto the Lord.