The Value of Coaching – One ED’s Experience

As John Maxwell says “Everything rises and falls on leadership.” This truth can have significant  impact on a  person; empowering them as person and a leader, and at times overwhelming them. In my life and leadership I have found myself at both ends of that pendulum at one time or another, struggling to navigate my way through challenges associated with life’s success and the hard times that life provides. Recently I have been working with a friend who I not only respect but has been working in the field of consulting and coaching to professionals, leaders and pastors and in doing so discovered a key to success, I am not alone! The question is how do I take advantage of the resource of people God has given me? What does that look like?

For me this process is to summed up in this quote by Zuse and Skiffington:    

“Coaching is a conversation, a dialogue, whereby the coach and the individual interact in a dynamic exchange to achieve goals, enhance performance and move the individual forward to greater success.”

To do this Scott and I meet weekly at a consistent time and place a focused effort  addressing the issues that we are coming together to address. Whether the topics are business or personal this meeting is a safe place that I can be transparent and honest and expect honest feedback and guidance. We work on strategic planning, goal developing peoplesetting and organizational development. We cover staffing issues, budget concerns, upline struggles as well as failures and success. This is not a class or webinar this is another person helping me process through my real world circumstances. Not a boss or subordinate but a partner who is helping me find the best answer to the needs of my life and business realities. A coach to challenge and encourage me to be and do my absolute best in every situation. A coach is not a player on my team he is a person who is on my side and wants me to win because our lives and values are aligned through intentional choices and commitment to one another.

The writer of Proverbs tells us that “Where there is no guidance the people fall, But in abundance of counselors there is victory.”:… Together we win!

Article by: David Kincaid, Executive Director – Middle GA TC

3 Key Ingredients of a Coaching Conversation

Allowing our graduates to walk out their freedom in Christ while at Teen Challenge is necessary to prepare them to live successful Christian lives after TC. When a student first enters the program we tell them what to do because they are a new babe in Christ. As they become spiritually mature, we give them more responsibility to make decisions with the help of the Holy Spirit. This is key to helping our graduates transition back to society as productive citizens and where coaching is especially helpful in the discipleship process.

Being led by the Holy Spirit to ask the right questions at the right time of the right person

Two people having a conversation

Two people having a conversation

will help them develop the critical thinking skills necessary to adjust to life after TC. This will require several coaching conversations. A coaching conversation has three key ingredients which will move the person forward:

  1. Explores – connect with the students where they are at. Talk about the things they want to talk about. This is the student’s time to explore what’s inside of them and to have a simple conversation that will help them dream about the possibilities for their future.
  2. Excites – Get excited about  the things they are excited about. Excitement or joy is contagious and fires up the brain to create. If you are excited about their future, they are excited too and they will believe it’s possible to create. A joyful heart is good medicine.
  3. Exhorts – Be an Encourager – a Barnabas. Along the way, the student will meet upon obstacles which may prevent them from becoming who God created them to be. Your role is to encourage them to live from a stance of victory and not defeat. Encourage them to turn the trials into opportunities.

I have found that the best coaching conversations are in the moment – as you go about daily life on campus. You can draw out so much more when you are in a relaxed environment. Listen and watch for the moment to coach and ask these powerful questions:

What is here that you want to explore?
How does this fit with your plans and values?
What are you willing to do to accomplish this?
What support will you need along the way?
What is your desired outcome?

Article Submitted by: Andree Aiken, ELP Leader/Coach, TC Southeast

 

From the Rep’s Corner

Mentoring and Coaching – Investing in Others

Pouring in versus drawing out – that’s one of the simplest ways to differentiate between mentoring and coaching.

There is a time and a place for pouring into, or mentoring, others. Those who have more life experience, wisdom, and Biblical knowledge have a responsibility to pass on what they know to those who are younger, whether in age or faith. Paul’s word to Timothy was to “entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others” (2 Timothy 2:2).  Multiplication of disciples at its finest – tell them what I told you, so they can tell others!

Mentoring says, “I love you enough to give you everything that I have. I want to see you succeed; here’s what I know to help you do that.”

Life Coaching, on the other hand, says, “I believe you have what it takes to figure this out. I love you enough to listen and give you my full attention while you talk through this and create your own plan of action and change.”

Coaches use open-ended questions to draw out what a person has in them. Additionally, Christian coaches rely on the principles that God initiates change and that His sheep hear His voice. Coaching keeps the responsibility for growth and change with the coachee. Though asking and listening takes more time than telling, the impact is powerful.

Within the ministry of Teen Challenge, both mentoring and coaching have their place. Both say to students, interns and staff, “I’m invested in you.” They just say it differently.

Ask yourself:

  • Who in my realm of influence would benefit from mentoring or coaching?
  • What is the impact of mentoring on a conversation? Of coaching on a conversation?
  • When is it most appropriate to use mentoring in your ministry? When is coaching most effective?
  • What’s one step you can take this month to grow in the disciplines of mentoring and/or coaching?

Article submitted by: Angela Hastings (ELP Rep/Coach, Hosanna House)

From the Rep’s Corner – Aug 2015

Here is a testimony of how coaching has helped one of our students.

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“Coaching has absolutely changed my life! I believe that every Teen Challenge should have a coaching program. It isn’t easy by any means because of the effort and work you must put forth, but it is extremely beneficial. It challenges me to really dig deep into my relationship with God and depend on Him for the next step in my life. It helps me to see that the decisions I make now affect my future. Coaching is amazing and I love the fact that I get something new out of it every time. God has totally blessed me with this experience and opportunity.”
How has coaching helped you move forward in the program?
It’s helped me to address the things that I struggle with currently and that could be a struggle in the future. It’s helped me to grow. It’s made me more confident. Rather than focusing on the past, it’s focusing on who I can become in Christ. It pushes me to do things I never thought I could do, like lead others.
How has it prepared you as a leader?
It’s helped me to be a more gentle leader and to reach out to others in ways I was reached out to that helped me.
What makes coaching different than advising?
You focus on the future rather than the past. I am growing in areas that benefit the here and now and my future.
What’s been most helpful in coaching?
Being able to focus on one thing in a session rather than a million things. I am pushed to search things out for myself rather than feeding off other’s relationship with God. It’s helped me to dig deep in my relationship with God.

Leadership Transitions

Transitions are like delivering a baby; difficult for a while but when the baby arrives it’s the cutest thing you have ever seen! They are also difficult because something dies or closes for something new to give birth and there are so many unknowns in the process. Solomon describes the paradox of life this way “there is a right time for everything under the sun – a time to be born; a time to die; a time to plant; a time to harvest, a time to destroy, a time to rebuild’ (Ecc 3, TLB). For every season of our lives there is a beginning and there is an end. However, Jesus comforts us with these words from Matthew 6 “your heavenly Father already knows perfectly well what you need and he will give them to you if you give Him first place in your life and live as he wants you to. So don’t be anxious about tomorrow. God will take care of your tomorrow too. Live one day at a time” (TLB).

 For many of us, as we move through various stages of our lives, we reach junctions – TollBooths2points of transition. Some challenges require us to rise to the occasion – they will either become tollbooths we progress through or roadblocks.The price to go through the tollbooth might be a tough decision we must make, or a situation we must leave behind; it may mean a class we must take, or a job we must quit. We must calibrate our expectations, manage disappointments, and be realistic about the speed and ease of our lives. The best solution then, is to learn adaptability. We must balance how we possess expectations, but also realize that a wonderful gift may not be wrapped as we expect.” ~ Dr. Tim Elmore – Habitudes for the Journey

If we are pliable in God’s hand – yielded to His will, His thoughts and His ways, then we become more flexible – more adaptable to times of transition and change and, as a result we grow in our dependence on the Holy Spirit. Reminds me of this paraphrase of Matthew 11:6 “blessed is he who does not get offended at [how I choose to operate My kingdom on this earth]” (paraphrase by Virgina Young). Recently, our Corporate Training Team went through a major transition which was painful but I had to rest in the fact that God had everything under control and He had each one’s best interest at heart. We all had to spend significant amount of time with the Lord as we contemplated the next season. God is good and He is faithful to perfect the good work He started in us.

It is with mixed emotions of sadness, and yet excitement, that we say goodbye to Karissa Corpeny and Andrew Chalmers who served our emerging leaders and staff for 8 years and 4 years respectively. Karissa moved on to start her own consulting business and Andrew started Take the City as a non-profit organization. Please keep them in prayer in their new endeavors. Dustin Nance is now the Divisional Leader in charge of Training which means ELP will merge with the Emerging Leaders College. There is a creative team that will be assessing the structure of ELP and looking for ways to provide more role-specific training for Teen Challenge staff. We look forward to see what God births in this new season.

Some coaching questions to ask as you go through a transition:

How am I balancing my expectations with reality?

Am I in a season of giving birth or closure?

What do I see when I assess the speed and ease of my life?

What are the themes that are consistent when God is preparing me for a transition?

Articled submitted by: Andree Aiken – ELP Leader/Coach

 

Revolutionalized Leadership Podcast Series 1 of 12

This is the first in our Series of 12 Podcast on Coaching where Cathy Alford (Founder of Life Works Coaching in Columbus, GA) and I talk about “What is Coaching?” You can dowload the audio recording here. Attached  is the PowerPoint slides for this podcast.

WHAT COACHING HAS DONE FOR ME

Angela Hastings

“Nothing is more appropriate than getting excited when God does something in our lives.” ~ Beth Moore

I find it interesting that the last time I posted on my blog was in August. But I don’t find it coincidental. I won’t even blame it on the busyness. It has to do with the fact that God has been doing a major revamping in my life and in my heart. Most of you know that in August, I started life coach training. Part of that training was meeting with one of our instructors for personal coaching. For those of you who are unfamiliar with the concept of Christian life coaching, it’s helping someone discover what God is doing in their lives and helping them to cooperate with Him. What I realized personally, was coaching provided the optimal environment for change. I don’t think we ever really even talked about the big thing that I wanted/needed to change in my life more than once. But over the course of six sessions in 4 months, God changed my heart and my attitude about the thing that was giving me the most trouble. Having an open door to deep, meaningful, intentional conversation and relationship, without the fear of being judged, with the freedom to make mistakes, and with the accountability to take action on what God is telling me to do made a HUGE impact on my life.

You know how scientists tell us that the earth is exactly the right distance from the Sun, and it’s at the exact right tilt so that there can be be life on earth? The conditions are perfect, even though right now some of you would beg to differ because your weather is a little inclement. But ultimately we thrive because of our environment. Coaching is like that perfect environment for thriving. Even now God is giving me a reminder of the sweet babies in Romania that were left all alone in their cribs and failed to thrive. It’s because they lacked relationships. It’s because they didn’t have the love and support they needed to grow. Now, I know that meaningful relationships are not limited to the field of coaching, but I also know that in our chaotic, busy lives, we rarely take the time, energy, and effort to get real and to let others get real.

People, God is at work; He is speaking to us. But if we don’t wake up and do something about it, we are going to miss out. We are not intended to walk through this life alone. And we definitely do not grow best on our own. We are meant to share life together. We are meant to challenge one another. We are meant to confess our faults to one another and to say “This is where I’m really struggling. Please pray for me; I want to change.” We are meant to take what God is saying to us and do something about it. There’s nothing magical about coaching. But it forced me to ask the questions:

What is God doing in my life?
What is God saying to me?
And what am I going to do about it?

And then,  I did it! No, God did it! God did something in my life. And He wants to do something in yours also.

Written by Angela Hastings (ELP REP Hosanna House TC, Jacksonville, FL) 

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Revolutionized Leadership Webinar

This month we continued the Life Plan Process through coaching on how to listen and ask relevant, powerful questions of your emerging leaders.

 

 

Revolutionized Leadership Webinar 11-15-13, 10.18 AM (Converted) from Teen Challenge on Vimeo.

The ELP Rep as Coach and Mentor

Last month we looked at the ELP Rep as Coach and Mentor. A coach or mentor ensures the emerging leader is yoked-up with a coach or mentor – someone who will get them established in the house (the kingdom). Every person needs a Barnabas – an encourager, an Epaphroditus – someone who will walk side by side with them, and a Timothy – someone who will come and take over from them. To learn more about the benefits of coaching at an organizational level read 020ASTUDYONTHEEFFECTSOFCOACHvarious20012002. As you watch the webinar and read this article, go ahead and post your comments. We would love to hear how a shift to be more of a coach or mentor is impacting your campus.

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