Main Article – CARE

By: Dustin Nance

If you have read a leadership book in the last 20 years then you have read something about how you must care about those you lead for them to want to follow you. This is not a new concept. Brice Maddock says, “The only two things that matter when we stand before God is our relationship with Him and our relationships with others.” Basically, did we love God and love people enough to lead them to Him. Those are the two greatest commandments according to Jesus in Matthew 22:36-40.

We know this! We know because most likely we have experienced both leaders that show they care and leaders that don’t. Why aren’t we better at this as leaders? I would argue that for some it’s a shift from the mindset of thinking about “what is best for me?” to “what is best for the team?” or “what is best for John Doe in this situation?”. However, I believe for most of us we just get too BUSY!!!! The truth is we let ourselves get so busy and stressed out with tasks, that we miss the most important opportunities to show those around us we care every day. In a world that is focused on “what is best for me?”, we as Christian leaders must put others before ourselves. We must show people that we care more about them than what they can do.

I think of my daughter Ellie; she is a tough girl. She has had to grow up around my son, Asher, but the other day they were dancing around the living room and Asher accidentally ran her over. She jumped up, ran into my arms and started crying. I know she’s not dying, her arms are not broken and really she’s not physically hurting that much at all. She just wants to know that Daddy cares that she got ran over. I found myself with a choice to make, tell her she’s fine and send her on her way, or wrap my arms around her, tell her I’m sorry she got hurt and that I love her. I chose to take the time and show her I care.

Unfortunately, I don’t always make the right choice in this situation. When staff comes to me saying a situation is hard, I feel a responsibility to tell them to grow up and get it done, change the situation or make it easier for them. However, that’s not always the case. Sometimes all I need to do is acknowledge that it is hard, let them know I think they can do it and encourage them to keep pushing. Basically, I need to show them I care about them, not just that they get the task done.

Don’t get me wrong; I stand with Jon Gordon on this, “I believe in tough love, but love must come first. If your team knows that you care about them, they will allow you to push and challenge them to be their best.” You may have the authority to give tough love, but if you haven’t spent the time showing someone you care, they will not see it as love at all.

This is an important point for us to understand as leaders! It’s always a faster turnaround time with my daughter Ellie when I show her I care. Usually, she jumps right back up and goes at it again, but If I don’t, she walks around crying looking for someone else to show her they care. Not only does it take longer, but she will stop coming to me if I do that too many times. I want Ellie to come to me for the rest of her life, just as I want my staff too. It’s not coddling them to encourage someone and acknowledge a situation is hard and that you’re behind them and believe they can do it.

Take the time today to show your team you care!

 

Source: You Win in the Locker Room First, by Jon Gordon and Mike Smith

ELP Highlight – Oct 2016

Name: David BullisDavid Bullis

Age: 28 years old

Hometown: Ocean Springs, Mississippi

Teen Challenge Center: Pensacola, FL Men’s Center

Graduated From: Teen Challenge International Mid-America

Testimony: Growing up, I came from a Christian family but never actually got saved or took it serious. When I was 16 my biological father passed away and shortly after that, I began smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol. This began a 10 year struggle with addiction and I would eventually experiment with everything except for heroin, with cocaine, benzos, weed, and alcohol being my drugs of choice. On November 24, 2014 I got my second DUI and was sentenced to 30 days in jail. While there I finally got saved and gave my life over to God. Upon being released on Christmas Eve, I entered Mercy House in Hurley, MS and then transferred to the Teen Challenge in Cape Girardeau, MO after completing induction. After graduating there I came to Pensacola Teen Challenge where I am currently serving in the Education department.

The Purpose and Calling God has Given Me: I believe God has called me to work at Teen Challenge and give the same gift I was given to others who are struggling with addiction.

The ELP’s impact on my leadership: It has made me a more patient and understanding person. It has also strengthened my relationship with God.

ELP Highlight – July 2016

Name: Matthew RossignolMatt Rossignol

Age: 25 years old

Hometown: Northhampton, Maine

Teen Challenge Center: Jacksonville Men’s Center

My Testimony in Brief: I was raised in a traditional home where I learned good morals and work ethic.  I spent my whole life trying to fit in and belong, looking for significance in all the wrong places. At 21 I was divorced, became even more depressed, and became addicted to cold medicine, which led to 4 baker acts, over 8 antidepressant prescriptions.  During this my brother passed away suddenly from organ failure, which drove me to God.  After a few more failures I came to Teen Challenge and figured out my problem wasn’t drugs, but rather a lack of God.

Purpose and Calling: I have been here 8 months and the ELP program is God’s tool to strengthen and develop my character, and to make me ready for His calling of serving others who are bound with sin.  This ministry, ELP and God has turned out to be more that I imagined.

 

Rep’s Link – Apr 2016

Level I Adult

This month we continue with our course Knowing and Understanding God and our text: Experiencing God by Blackaby, Blackaby and King. This is a two month course.

For those persons who are starting or continuing their electives, go ahead and put in your orders on the Google Spreadsheet ELP Monthly Order Form and Grade Sheet Edited.

Level I Adolescent

Our course for the Adolescent track is The Art of Self Leadership and the text: Habitudes I  – The Art of Self Leadership by Tim Elmore. This book is part of a series of 3 books. They are based on the fact that leadership isn’t merely one-dimensional – it runs 360 degrees – we influence others all around us. The leadership journey begins with self-leadership – we must lead ourselves before we lead anyone else.

Monthly Book Orders and Grades

Southeast region Rep’s can go to Google Drive and search for ELP Monthly Order Form and Grade Sheet Edited. Look for your center’s name in the tabs at the bottom and fill in your information. No need to save or email the spreadsheet (Google Drive saves it and we can access the info from my Drive). If you place an initial order on the form and update the order later (i.e. add 2 more books) after we have ordered your books, please send and email to andree.aiken@teenchallenge.cc. All new applications must be in by the 10th of the month for students starting the 15th.

Level II – April 2016

Congratulations! 

Congratulations Sean Lee for completing the Level 2! 

Core Courses

Our next core course is Ministry Development and our text: From Dream to Reality. dream to reality book coverWe’ll read a little of the history of TC Southeast as Dr. Jerry Nance shares the early years of developing the ministry. This book reveals the principles that evolved during the building years of the organization. You’ll learn principles such as:

  • The leader must hear from God
  • Pray Hard, Work Hard, Then Pray God Blesses Your Work
  • Cherish and Celebrate Victories along the Way
  • You Can Fund Your Vision
  • Learn to Laugh and much more…

You can see your dream become a reality as you apply these principles and as you stay faithful to the dream in your heart. Don’t quit short of what God has put in your heart to accomplish. God has a master plan for your life and He has endowed you with the gifts and talents to accomplish what He has called you to do.

Your first post will be up on the forum Monday, April 18th. You’ll make an initial post and respond to someone’s post.

Success in the Arena – Leaving a Legacy

 

In honor of the Super Bowl, last month’s article was on The Arena.  The Arena is the placePeyton Manning where legends are born- legends like Peyton Manning.  Most of you know that Peyton just retired from football, after eighteen years of hard work and dedication.  The Denver Post printed an article covering the story called, Peyton Manning’s Legacy Will Need to Be Told By Others. Here is an excerpt from that article,

“At Manning’s retirement ceremony…the final question was in regard to Peyton’s footprint revolutionizing the position of quarterback, and what impact he would have on future quarterbacks. He responded: ‘I can’t answer that myself…’ Peyton would decline to define his legacy. That delineation of influence will be left up to millions of other people…”

Success in the arena has many aspects but, when thinking about the subject, two things really came to my mind.  The first aspect is summed up by this quote from an anonymous author, “Success isn’t just about what you accomplish in your life, it’s about what you inspire others to do.”  Many of you have experienced success in this area.  Whether you have inspired a student to be the father or mother that God had called them to be or an intern to work for a cause that helps others or maybe you have inspired your own son or daughter to follow in your ministry footprints- success has to do with what you influence others to do- this is an important part of your legacy and those that you have inspired, will tell your story.

Secondly, success in the arena has to do, not just with personal “wins,” but with team wins as well.  Read Manning’s definition of success in the arena, “When I look back on my NFL career, I’ll know without a doubt that I gave everything I had to help my teams walk away with a win.”

This is a challenge to all of us- are we doing everything we can so that our team wins?  Yes, we want personal success and legacy but there is nothing more inspiring than seeing a team play for team success.  It brings great glory to God when His people work together for a common cause and a common victory.  When this happens, no one man gets accolades; the accolades rest at the throne of God.

How do we manage this kind of legacy?  How do we gain the success that inspires others and brings both personal and team victories?  Read what Peyton is quoted as saying, “There were other players who were more talented, but there was no one who could out-prepare me. And, because of that, I have no regrets.”

Peyton Manning was not the most talented quarterback the NFL has ever seen but he arguable was the most prepared.  I want to challenge you today to prepare for success.  The most important and effective way to do this is through prayer and the study of God’s Word.  When we put on the full armor of God, we are prepared to expect, fight and win the daily battles that rage in our lives.  As we focus on preparing for success, we will inspire others, see victories in our lives and in the lives of our teammates. It is then we will leave a legacy for others and we will say, like Paul, “I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.” 2 Timothy 4:7

In the Arena Together,

Brice Maddock  (COO, Teen Challenge Southeast)

 

 

ELP Highlight – Mar 2016

My nSteven Newmaname is Steven Newman. I was born in Augusta, GA.  I grew up in a wonderful and loving family. My parents were always there for me and still are to this day. My mother has always been a very godly woman, so I was raised up in Christian schools. High school is where it all started. I got with the wrong group of guys and stole a car, went to the mall, and robbed a woman. We got caught and I received probation. I continued with my madness and started selling drugs. I got caught and got out again with probation. My mother and father would always hire me the best lawyers and getting me out of trouble. So, eventually I didn’t worry about getting caught. I continued selling and was successful. Everything Satan wants us to have is to blind us from GOD. Houses, Boats, Cars, Motorcycles, anything you want.

Well I got caught again, and had the best lawyer so I knew with enough money I would get out. But this time, I remember my lawyer telling me “Steven I can no longer take your case the feds want you. I cannot win.” I knew then I was going to prison. Plus the feds wanted me to give information to them, which I could not do. My boss knew where my mother, brother, and whole family lived. Yes, I feared him! So I wouldn’t cooperate. I was sent to Prison 5 different federal penitentiaries.

From 1999 to 2012 I was in and out of Federal Prison system. When I got out I met a wonderful Christian woman. I had a great job everything was great. However,  I fell Into Satan’s hands again. A certain woman moved next door and eventually I started going over to her house and using meth, heroine and partying again. I never would have thought I would become a junkie. The same person I sold to—I had become. My girlfriend left me after the other woman told her everything when she was intoxicated one night. I lost everything and was living out of my truck, begging my mother for money, and taking showers at the truck stop. On top of that, I was facing multiple new charges.

My brother and mom came and got me out of jail and I came home. I realized I needed help when my daughter told me “Baylin (my son) has a step dad who sits on the couch all day and a dad who he watched grow up in prison to look up to.” The very next day I searched for rehabs and came across Teen Challenge. They took me immediately. I made a commitment to myself and my family that no matter what I would be straight for a year. Satan has yet to steal my victory. God has restored my relationship with my beautiful twins and my family!

Now, I’m the one chosen to do the prayers at special occasions. I also serve food to the homeless, and talk to drug addicts every chance I get to share the hope of Jesus with them. Only God could make that change.  I graduated from Middle Georgia Teen Challenge in July 2015 and have recently finished my 6 month internship. I’m in the ELP program where I’m learning leadership roles. I have the responsibility of work project coordinator. I’m still currently here at Teen Challenge 20 months later because I honestly feel God’s calling to this ministry and to give back to the young adults to keep them from going down the path I went through.

ELP Highlight – Feb 2016

Name: Zac GarmonZach Garmon

Age: 28

Teen Challenge Center: Teen Challenge Middle Georgia

My testimony in brief: I first came to Teen Challenge Christmas Eve 2013 weighing 127 lbs and had been out of control for a long time. After being sober for about 30 days I figured I already knew God and now that my withdrawals were over I’d be ok—so I left. Just two days later I was in a coma from a heroin overdose and also had a minor stroke 11 days later. I got out of the hospital and never slowed down, and after 6 months and 3 more overdoses and thoughts of suicide, God brought me back to Teen Challenge.

Now I am up to 200 lbs, very happy and I have a boldness I’ve never had and also I’m able to give back to the ministry God used to bring me back to him.

The purpose and calling God has given me: My purpose and God’s calling has been to use my compassion and be an open ear for those who struggle the way I have, and to help wherever I am needed.

ELP’s impact on my leadership: ELP has helped my leadership by helping me realize who I am in God’s kingdom and how he wants to use me.

 

 

Rep’s Link – Feb 2016

Level I Adult

We continue with our course Boundaries and our text: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud. By now your students should be half way in the book. Remember there is no test for this course. You’ll assess their Study Guide and involvement at weekly meetings.

 

Level I Adolescent

Our course for the Adolescent track is Discover your God-given Purpose and the text: Chazown by Craig Groeschel. The Hebrew word “Chazown” (pronounced “khaw-ZONE”) means dream, vision or revelation. Craig Groeschel believes that your very own Chazown is hiding just under the surface of your life in three often overlooked areas: your core values, your spiritual gifts, and your past experiences. Pursue your Chazown and simultaneously improve five critical aspects of your life – your relationship with God, your relationships with people, your finances, your health and fitness, and your vocational life. You were born with your own Chazown. Do you know what it is?

Monthly Book Orders and Grades

Southeast region Rep’s can go to Google Drive and search for ELP Monthly Order Form and Grade Sheet Edited. Look for your center’s name in the tabs at the bottom and fill in your information. No need to save or email the spreadsheet (Google Drive saves it and we can access the info from my Drive). If you place an initial order on the form and update the order later (i.e. add 2 more books) after we have ordered your books, please send to me at andree.aiken@teenchallenge.cc. All new applications must be in by the 10th of the month for students starting the 15th.

 

Great Leaders Evaluate How they Spend Their Time

What is the Quality of your Life?

            One of the most important things you can do is to sit down and think deeply about how you spend your time, where you don’t spend your time and where you should be spending your time- not just at work, but also in every part of your life. The quality of your life is directly affected by how and where you spend your time.

      –Lee Cockerell

 I don’t know about you but when I read this quote, conviction came over me like a flood.  I was stunned to think about the wasted moments in my life…sleeping that extra hour instead of praying, turning on the TV before bed instead of talking to a loved one, reading How-we-spend-our-daysan inspiring book or jotting a note to someone who needs encouragement.

Pause and think with me about the moments in your days that need a “makeover.”  Think about the blocks of time, which we are the authors of; times that could make a difference in eternity- meditating on a Scripture in an area where you are struggling instead of spending time giving into the struggle, journaling your thoughts, ideas and dreams instead of telling yourself they can’t or won’t happen, contacting someone that you should’ve contacted a long time ago to make amends.

I want to challenge you to seize every moment- be a good steward of all that God has given you, use your gifts for others and be consistent in all of these things. God will bless you and your family. Your family and others will be challenged by your example and emulate it.

Seize the moment ideas:

  1. Keep a devotion book in the bathroom
  2. Keep audios in your car about finances, marriage, parenting, etc.
  3. Always have a notebook- many people use their phones or other devices to record thoughts, ideas & lists but you can easily become distracted doing this. There is nothing like a good pen and a blank page.
  4. Keep your sword near. It will ensure your perspective is on point.
  5. Keep blank cards handy to jot notes to those God puts on your heart.
  6. When someone asks you to pray, do it right then. Don’t wait.
  7. Always have a good book at your bedside- something that you can’t wait to read.
  8. Speak life and encouragement to those around you, especially your family- if you are thinking something positive, say it right then.

Let’s take occasion to look at how we are spending (and not spending) our time and ask God to show us the changes we can make, for His glory.  Let’s seize the moment together, friends, and see how God can “makeover” those wasted spells.  Remember, anything we do for Him will be multiplied back to us.  Let us take Him at His Word, together, and see what comes of it!

Article by: Brice Maddock – COO, Teen Challenge Southeast