3 Key Ingredients of a Coaching Conversation

Allowing our graduates to walk out their freedom in Christ while at Teen Challenge is necessary to prepare them to live successful Christian lives after TC. When a student first enters the program we tell them what to do because they are a new babe in Christ. As they become spiritually mature, we give them more responsibility to make decisions with the help of the Holy Spirit. This is key to helping our graduates transition back to society as productive citizens and where coaching is especially helpful in the discipleship process.

Being led by the Holy Spirit to ask the right questions at the right time of the right person

Two people having a conversation

Two people having a conversation

will help them develop the critical thinking skills necessary to adjust to life after TC. This will require several coaching conversations. A coaching conversation has three key ingredients which will move the person forward:

  1. Explores – connect with the students where they are at. Talk about the things they want to talk about. This is the student’s time to explore what’s inside of them and to have a simple conversation that will help them dream about the possibilities for their future.
  2. Excites – Get excited about  the things they are excited about. Excitement or joy is contagious and fires up the brain to create. If you are excited about their future, they are excited too and they will believe it’s possible to create. A joyful heart is good medicine.
  3. Exhorts – Be an Encourager – a Barnabas. Along the way, the student will meet upon obstacles which may prevent them from becoming who God created them to be. Your role is to encourage them to live from a stance of victory and not defeat. Encourage them to turn the trials into opportunities.

I have found that the best coaching conversations are in the moment – as you go about daily life on campus. You can draw out so much more when you are in a relaxed environment. Listen and watch for the moment to coach and ask these powerful questions:

What is here that you want to explore?
How does this fit with your plans and values?
What are you willing to do to accomplish this?
What support will you need along the way?
What is your desired outcome?

Article Submitted by: Andree Aiken, ELP Leader/Coach, TC Southeast

 

From the Rep’s Corner

Joy In Enduring

As ministers we can get so caught up in serving others and trying hard to please God in ministry that we lose our joy. The author of Hebrews describes how Jesus ran His race with endurance “for the joy set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God” (Heb 12:2 NASB). “For consider Him who has endured such hostility by sinners against Himself, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart” (NASB). The Greek word ‘endure’ is translated “under-remain.” It gives the picture of being under severe pressure but holding steadfast, standing firm, not wavering , being tenacious – hardworking and optimistic in the face of setbacks.

James, another leader in the church says “consider it all joy when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance and let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing” (James 1:3-4). Sometimes when we are in these hard-pressed places we want to get out quickly, we want the pain and discomfort to go away and we step out before giving the process time to work in us. The way to endure these tough places is to find JOY in the pain. Is it possible?BillyMills_Crossing_Finish_Line_1964Olympics Sure! But we have to cry out to Holy Spirit and ask Him to help us find joy in the process. The joy is in knowing that Jesus won and we can win too! The joy is in knowing the end result – the eternal impact; the many students whom you have poured into and who have found hope in Jesus Christ.

Ask the Lord “what is it you are showing me in this season of my life?” “How can I find joy in the process?”

But you will be called the priests of the Lord; You will be spoken of as ministers of our God…instead of your shame you will have a double portion, and instead of humiliation they will shout for joy over their portion. Therefore they will possess a double portion in their land, everlasting joy will be theirs. Is 61

 

Article Submitted by: Andree Aiken – ELP Leader/Coach, TC Southeast

ELP Rep’s Link – Nov 14

Level I Adult 

This month our core course is God’s Armor Bearer and our text is God’s Armor Bearer by Terry Nance. Support the vision of your leader and God will help you accomplish your vision in due season.  The study of this book and workbook will give understanding in just how to accomplish God’s plan as an armor bearer doing God’s will. The writer of the book served as an armor bearer to his pastor some twenty-five years with meekness and joy. Look for opportunities to affirm and celebrate your students when you see them practically applying the principles in this book.

Level I Adolescent

Our course for the Adolescent track is Self-Leadership and our text: Habitudes I  by Tim Elmore. This book is part of a series of 3 books. The books are created to guide you on your leadership journey. They are based on the fact that leadership isn’t merely one-dimensional – it runs 360 degrees – we influence others all around us. The leadership journey begins with self-leadership – we must lead ourselves before we lead anyone else.

Monthly Book Orders and Grades

Southeast region Rep’s can go to Google Drive and search for ELP Monthly Order Form and Grade Sheet Edited. Look for your center’s name in the tabs at the bottom and fill in your center’s information. No need to save or email the spreadsheet (Google Drive saves it and I can access the info from my Drive). If you place an initial order on the form and update the order later (i.e. add 2 more books) after we have ordered your books, please send Kerry Pevey (ELP Admin Asst) an email at kerry.pevey@teenchallenge.cc. Blessings!