3 Key Ingredients of a Coaching Conversation

Allowing our graduates to walk out their freedom in Christ while at Teen Challenge is necessary to prepare them to live successful Christian lives after TC. When a student first enters the program we tell them what to do because they are a new babe in Christ. As they become spiritually mature, we give them more responsibility to make decisions with the help of the Holy Spirit. This is key to helping our graduates transition back to society as productive citizens and where coaching is especially helpful in the discipleship process.

Being led by the Holy Spirit to ask the right questions at the right time of the right person

Two people having a conversation

Two people having a conversation

will help them develop the critical thinking skills necessary to adjust to life after TC. This will require several coaching conversations. A coaching conversation has three key ingredients which will move the person forward:

  1. Explores – connect with the students where they are at. Talk about the things they want to talk about. This is the student’s time to explore what’s inside of them and to have a simple conversation that will help them dream about the possibilities for their future.
  2. Excites – Get excited about  the things they are excited about. Excitement or joy is contagious and fires up the brain to create. If you are excited about their future, they are excited too and they will believe it’s possible to create. A joyful heart is good medicine.
  3. Exhorts – Be an Encourager – a Barnabas. Along the way, the student will meet upon obstacles which may prevent them from becoming who God created them to be. Your role is to encourage them to live from a stance of victory and not defeat. Encourage them to turn the trials into opportunities.

I have found that the best coaching conversations are in the moment – as you go about daily life on campus. You can draw out so much more when you are in a relaxed environment. Listen and watch for the moment to coach and ask these powerful questions:

What is here that you want to explore?
How does this fit with your plans and values?
What are you willing to do to accomplish this?
What support will you need along the way?
What is your desired outcome?

Article Submitted by: Andree Aiken, ELP Leader/Coach, TC Southeast

 

From the Rep’s Corner

Inside the Soul of A Honest Disciple

If I could ask Jesus one thing right now it would be, “Did ministry ever make you think you were crazy, losing your mind or even that you weren’t even really the Son of Man and all the rejection and ridicule you faced was beginning to tear you down and doubt the truth?

You see I have many titles, many responsibilities, many expectations, many who call onThe empty soul my name more than they have ever called on the name of Jesus. All these humbled glories proceed to feed my flesh, leaving my soul empty, apart for the rest and sanctification of Christ. I look into the crowd of needs, each calling my name, each yelling their disappointment of expectation, many of which I have flooded my own brain with, and sadly my Spirit too.

You see a heart planted so deep within me, that sometimes it’s so blinded by the desire to please God and see Him glorified that it forgets the navigation of His pursuit to fulfill me. He says “slow down,” He says “stop,” He says “ENOUGH!!!” It’s this cycle that affords me such fulfillment and satisfaction, that now I realize, that’s what I am worshiping. It is in this realization that I am grieved and the God that I thought I saw standing over me in applaud is actually on His face weeping for me and my soul. He is weeping and interceding that I would slow down and come back to Him. That I would come back to intimacy, He is not looking for a quick fix, He won’t even show up for it. I find in my private time warring with these feelings that my Lover has stood me up, all because He knows my heart has hardened to His intimacy. You see the same pattern I have developed with “serving Him” has carried into my personal relationship with my Jesus!

You see the enemy is the master of darkness, darkness upon which we cannot see. He is the King of deception, deceiving us and our most purest desires. Our only hope is our rawness, our brokenness and the destruction of pride, which is only to be overtaken by the Kingdom and Glory of His marvelous light! So let Him in, let His light shine and allow yourself to be utterly overtaken by His love for you! So no matter how high you might climb in leadership, it means nothing if your not going lower in your personal relationship with Christ!

Level II – Nov 2014

Welcome

This month we welcome Laurie Lusink (Davie) and Brad Bond (Ozark’s) to the Level II. Welcome Laurie & Brad! We look forward to a rich learning experience as we grow together.

Congratulations!

Congratulations to Rob Helfer (Vero Beach) and Sandra Marotta (Southwest Florida) on completing Level II! God has greater responsibilities in store for you; because you have been faithful in little, He’ll give you responsibility for more.

Congratulations also to Vicky Syfrett (West Florida) for moving on to your electives!

Core Courses

Our core course the next 3 months is Values in Leadership and our text: People First by Jack Lannom. People First™ teaches everyone how to value long-term, trust-based relationships over short-term gain; how to develop world-class leaders and pass on an enduring legacy. In this comprehensive leadership manual, the staff will study ten key principles in a systematic approach. It will challenge you as you work through thought provoking personal action plans at the end of each chapter. Get ready to be a Leader’s Leader!

Your first post will be on the forum on Monday, November 17th.

Level II – Aug 2014

Congratulations

Congratulations Mitch Clevenger (Vero Beach) on moving to your electives!

Reminder

Remember to return the 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership DVD’s. The cost to purchase a new DVD set is $299.99 (plus tax and shipping) and will be charged to your center if these are not returned.

Core Courses

Our core course this month is Practical Christianity and our text: Ordering Your Private World by Gordon MacDonald. The values of our Western culture incline us to believe that the busy, publicly-active person in ministry is also the most spiritual. Tempted to give imbalanced attention to the public world at the expense of the private, we become involved in more programs, more meetings. Our massive responsibilities at home, work, and church have resulted in a lot of good people on the verge of collapse. Gordon MacDonald equips a new generation of emerging leaders to live life from the inside out, cultivating the inner victory necessary for public effectiveness.  Your first post will be up on the forum on Monday, August 18th.